It is said ‘To err is Human and to forgive is divine’. We should forgive, forget and move on. But is it acceptable to forgive people again and again? No matter what they do.
Sometimes the mistakes people make are grave. Is it correct to forgive them? The answers differ from individual to individual. Emotional people tend to forgive easily. They get carried away in emotions and for them forgiveness comes easily. People who are practical are judgmental to an extent. They weigh the pros and cons and then decide whether the other person should be forgiven or not.
Also some people who have wronged us never realize their mistakes. They feel they haven’t committed any blunder. In that case it is on us how we deal with them and how much we value ourselves. People who do not deserve our forgiveness are the ones who make the same mistakes again and again. They do not understand the seriousness of the situation and do not understand themselves as well as others.
People who are genuinely sorry for their actions should be forgiven. They are the ones who realise their errors and work towards becoming better human beings. We need to understand the difference between these two kinds of people and forgive them accordingly.
Also, sometimes mistakes are made unknowingly. People do not realize that they have erred. We need to be considerate towards them and forgive them as they are oblivious or ignorant.
While there is a huge difference between theory and practical implementation, what remains consistent is the positive feeling that forgiveness brings with it therefore make sure it doesn’t leave you feeling any resentment. If you don’t feel good about it, you truly haven’t forgiven.
So, next time before forgiving anyone, be sure that you are aware of the intentions of the person you are forgiving.